Consensual BDSM Agreement

This document specifies the responsibilities of _______________
(hereafter, “the Dominant”) and _______________ (hereafter, “the
submissive”) as a part of a consensual bondage/discipline,
dominance/submission, sadism/masochism (hereafter, “BDSM”) agreement
between them. This is a private agreement between the Dominant and the
submissive (hereafter, “the Parties”), and under no circumstances are any
or all of the contents of this agreement to be given to any other party,
except:
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1. PERIOD OF AGREEMENT. This agreement shall be valid from midnight of
__________ until midnight of __________. This agreement shall immediately
become null and void if any of the following occur:

1.1. Either of the Parties becomes seriously ill, is hospitalized, or
dies;
1.2. Either of the Parties delivers notice to the other of his or her
desire to terminate this agreement.

2. CONSIDERATION OF THE DOMINANT. In consideration for the submissive’s
fulfillment of this agreement, the Dominant agrees to guide and shape the
submissive with respect to sexual, sensual, and scene–related behaviors,
and to help the submissive work toward the realization of being a happy
and self–fulfilled individual. To this end, the Dominant agrees to carry
out the following provisions, to the best of his or her ability:

2.1. GENERAL OBLIGATIONS – The Dominant shall attend to the physical,
mental, and emotional well–being of the submissive. As such, it is
incumbent upon the Dominant to question the submissive in such a fashion
as to ensure that the Dominant has sufficient information to fulfill his
obligations to the submissive.

2.2. TRAINING SESSIONS – The Dominant shall provide at least one formal
BDSM training session per month. These sessions will always conclude with
a formal caning.

2.3. PUNISHMENT AND REWARD – The Dominant shall punish the submissive for
inappropriate and/or undesirable behaviors, actions, habits, thoughts,
etc. The Dominant shall reward the submissive for appropriate and/or
desirable behaviors, actions, habits, thoughts, etc. The nature of any
punishments and rewards shall be strictly left to the judgment of the
Dominant, except that they shall not include:

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2.4. TOOLS AND SUPPLIES – Except for the submissive’s formal training cane
(see Section 5), the Dominant shall furnish all tools and implements of
correction. The Dominant shall also provide any necessary safer sex
supplies.

3. CONSIDERATION OF THE SUBMISSIVE. In consideration for the Dominant’s
fulfillment of this agreement, the submissive agrees to be the Dominant’s
personal servant and sex slave. To this end, the submissive agrees to
fulfill the following requirements, to the best of his or her ability:

3.1. OBEDIENCE – The submissive will devote himself or herself, in mind
and in body, to the will of the Dominant. The submissive will obey the
Dominant without question, within the limits of the submissive’s personal
safety and ability to earn a living.

3.2. TRUTHFULNESS – The submissive agrees to answer any question put to
him or her by the Dominant as clearly and as truthfully as is possible.

3.3. FITNESS – In order to better serve the Dominant, the submissive will
strive to maintain and improve his or her health and vitality. The
submissive agrees to promptly inform the Dominant of any physical
discomfort, such as back or knee pain, that might affect the ability of
the submissive to serve the Dominant.

3.4. CLEANLINESS – The submissive agrees to maintain personal cleanliness
in a manner suitable for serving the Dominant. If directed to do so by the
Dominant, the submissive specifically agrees to:
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3.5. DRESS – The submissive agree to wear clothing of the Dominant’s
choice, including specified undergarments while in public, except that the
Dominant will not require the submissive to wear any of the following:
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3.6. AVAILABILITY – The submissive agrees to make his or her body
available whenever, wherever, and however the Dominant wishes, except that
the Dominant will not require the submissive to do any of the following:
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3.7. SERVICE – The submissive agrees to maintain and clean all tools and
implements of correction, as directed by the Dominant. The submissive
agrees to perform, to the best of his or her ability, any household task
the Dominant requires of him or her, except that the Dominant will not
require the submissive to do any of the following:
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3.8. RESPECTFULNESS – The submissive agrees to address the Dominant as
__________ unless otherwise directed. The submissive agrees to speak to
and about the Dominant with respect.

3.9. PUBLIC ATTENDANCE – The submissive agrees to accompany the Dominant
to one BDSM social event each month. The submissive agrees to “attend” the
Dominant at these events, and the submissive specifically renounces any
right to move freely while doing so.

4. SYMBOLS OF OWNERSHIP. The Dominant shall provide the submissive with a
token symbolizing the Dominant’s ownership of and responsibility toward
the submissive. This token shall be suitable to wear in all circumstances
and shall be worn by the submissive at all times. The Dominant shall also
furnish the submissive with a collar, which the submissive is to wear
while at the Dominant’s home and BDSM community events. Both the token and
the collar are the property of the Dominant, and shall be returned to the
Dominant upon the expiration or termination of this agreement.

5. FORMAL TRAINING CANE. Before the onset of formal training, the
submissive shall provide the Dominant with a piece of rattan, which shall
be used by the Dominant to fashion a formal training cane. The rattan
shall be at least 3 feet in length, approximately d inch in diameter, and
otherwise meet with the approval of the Dominant. The Dominant shall use
the formal training cane only on the submissive and only during formal
training sessions.

6. TRAINING JOURNAL. The submissive shall make daily entrees in a training
journal. Entries shall be at least 350 words in length, and are to be made
without the use of any first person singular pronouns (I, me, my, or
mine). In addition, all references to the submissive shall be in
lowercase, while all references to the Dominant shall be capitalized. The
journal is to be addressed to the Dominant, and may be read by the
Dominant at any time. The Parties shall not share the contents of the
journal with any other person. Upon the dissolution or expiration of this
agreement, the submissive shall retain sole possession of the journal.

7. SAFEWORD. The submissive’s safeword shall be Mercy. If the submissive
calls out “Mercy,” then the Dominant will immediately cease whatever
activity is in progress. The submissive will then be given sufficient
opportunity to voice concerns or make requests. The Dominant will then, to
the best of his or her ability and in full consideration of the
submissive’s well–being, decide whether and how to proceed with the
activity.

8. “STOP” COMMAND. The submissive’s “stop” command shall be Terminate Now.
If the submissive calls out “Terminate Now,” then the dominant will
immediately cease whatever activity is in progress. The activity is at
that point unconditionally over, and may not be resumed during the
session.

9. NONVERBAL SAFETY SIGNALS. Anytime the submissive is to be gagged or the
submissive’s ability to speak is to be otherwise impaired or eliminated,
then the Parties shall establish nonverbal safety signals to be used by
the submissive in place of the safeword and “stop” command.

10. LIMITATIONS. The Parties agree to never knowingly subject the other to
anything that will cause permanent physical and/or psychological harm.
Notwithstanding any other provision of this agreement, the Parties shall
not do anything that would in any way damage or harm the children of any
of the Parties, nor do anything which would interfere with the family
and/or parental obligations of the other, nor do anything which would
interfere with the employment obligations and/or the employability of the
other.

Signed this ______ day of __________, _____.

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Dominant

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submissive