The biggest psychological hurdle for many submissive men is self-acceptance: not feeling that there desire to serve and be humble is failure of manhood or merely a perversion. Likewise masochists coming to grips with a need for pain.
Did / Do you feel that your BDSM needs
- Leave you no masculinity (if you value that quality)
- Mark you as a pervert
- Show you a failure as a human being
Do you or did you feel guilt, shame, embarrassment?
(If you did, how did you overcome these silly, unhealthy emotions?)
Never!
I have always accepted my servitude to others, and have always used it as a source of freedom and strength.
Do people who worship gods, or idols feel shame or weakness? No! Worshipping and serving and submitting to another human being to me is both more real, and rewarding than worshipping something I can’t see, feel, smell or touch.
simply because one is deserving of your worship and servitude does not make you weak in my opinion.
i would sumit to many ladys enjoying slicing my cock up and enjoying hearing them laughting and watching them do it taking small slices spending hours doing it!!!! im willing ladys are you?
well you did ask your fantasys didnt you all? this follows my last comment thank u for enjoying them if you didnt them im sorry.
Right from my formative years I felt inferior to girls. Over time this developed into a desire to be forcefully put in my place by them – to be dominated, humiliated and punished for wanting what I didn’t deserve and to be cruelly teased with what I wasn’t going to get. Comparing myself with my peers I certainly thought there was something wrong with me. I felt ashamed by my feelings but didn’t think of myself as perverted as I had no way to act on my desires; it was more that I was very confused and unsettled by not knowing where these feelings were coming from.
Discovering pro dommes cured me of the shame and confusion. There were others – lots of them/us/you – who, to greater or lesser degrees, had the same or similar feelings to me. And there were women on the other side of the equation who understood those feelings and did not judge. I learned that my feelings were natural and nothing to be concerned about. However I still didn’t feel free to discuss them openly, but that was largely in the sense that this stuff was nobody’s business anyway.
From sessioning with pro dommes I gradually homed in on the core of my submissive desires. That was to be the wholly owned slave of a beautiful girl of whom I could never possibly be worthy in any other capacity; to offer her my absolute submission and to worship and serve her in any way she was gracious enough to allow. I was perfectly comfortable with that; I knew where it came form; it was who I was. The only problem was that it seemed an impossible dream, a hopeless fantasy. I was then in my early 40s.
But miracles do happen. I discovered Godddes Valentine DeVille. I had never heard of financial domination and even as I read about Her philosophy of findom I didn’t really get it, but I was so moved by Her beauty, charm, intelligence, and natural dominance, that I knew I needed to submit to Her. The means of submission were a secondary consideration; submission itself was the driving force. That was over six years ago now. My whole life has since been dedicated to Her service in a state of pure submission, expecting and asking nothing in return but the privilege of submitting to Her. I’ve never felt guilty or ashamed about this because it has always felt so right for me. I’m actually proud of it as my position as Her slave has only been earned by years of devoted service to the very beautiful girl I long since fell in love with.
In essence then getting rid of the feelings of shame only came with self knowledge and self-acceptance only came with time (lots of it) and and in finding someone who accepted and understood my deepest submissive desires and allowed me to fully express them and be who I really am.
Thank you very much for sharing your story.