We don’t prepare for scenes / play in any formal way. Mostly we try to arrange our days to make one more likely to emerge seamlessly. Typically we’re talking, listening to music, maybe sipping a little wine or beer.
The toys are near at hand: in boxes on the floor, hanging from the closet door, some on the fireplace mantelpiece.
Alexandra may put on sexy clothes and boots.
I try to get simple things like eating out of the way.
Otherwise we just relax.
Do you make any special arrangements?
- Rituals?
- Clothing?
Do you:
- Go to a certain place?
- Use a verbal signal?
Do you check your partner’s mood?
Is there a graceful way to bow out or say no?
What has worked for you? What hasn’t?
Any advice, tips, experiences that you’d like to share?