You love your S&M. You’ve found an amazing person but there’s a big limitation …
Masochists:
If you were in a relationship with a strong D/s dynamic but little or no S&M could you cope? Would the power exchange really be enough for you to cope with for the rest of your life?
Sadists:
You’ve found someone who worships you. Pleases you in every way but one: cannot handle pain. Or only so little that it barely seems to count? (If you are tempted to say “Then he isn’t really submissive” substitute castrate.)