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Soc Subculture Bondage-BDSM Femdom

You probably don’t know about newsgroups (now often thought of as Google Groups).

Let me introduce you to soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm.femdom.

Ms Cleo writes of her marriage:

My husband and I agreed late in 2003 that the Cock he carries serves both of us best when we openly acknowledge it as mine. This is central to our marriage – my Cock, though he carries it, exists to please and satisfy me, and quite frankly, even he admits he had been rather inept and careless with it – let’s just say it had not nearly been living up to its potential – before I took the significant step that year of locking it up securely to preserve it for its highest calling. Since that time, though I will not pretend that he is ALWAYS happy about it, my husband has most consistently agreed that our sexual relationship, as well as his appropriate devotion to me, has been greatly enhanced by the change in our relationship. My husband realizes I am not mean or cruel or on some sort of power trip, and frequently tells me this as he reaffirms his acceptance of it. My cock is beautiful, he knows I am proud of it, and of him for providing it for me as he does. While he does not ejaculate often any more, we have a very active sexual relationship, he no longer squanders his sexuality through masturbation or laziness, so that when I DO allow My Cock to cum, always inside me (for his two previous birthdays I masturbated it for his pleasure, but for his most recent birthday he actually refused my offer and told me he knows he no longer wants something so “selfish”) of course – it is explosive, powerful, earth-shattering – a rare and very precious treat, he calls it. He literally beams for days afterward – there is no real pattern to how frequently I want this, but in general he is used to three or four months or more passing in between. My husband has learned how happy he feels when he provides sexual stimulation for me in many other ways. He is wonderfully sexy with his tongue, his fingers etc. He gets very excited when I fuck HIM, by which we usually mean I “top” him and move around in a way that never allows My Cock to cum – or, more and more frequently over the past year or more, I use my strap-ons or otherwise fuck him in the ass. (He was not initially enthusiastic about this, but we have both been very pleasantly surprised at how he has come to accept and enjoy this – he has bought me strap-on devices and dildoes and it is not a rare thing anymore for me to join him in bed and notice that he has left his bare ass exposed to invite a good fucking… I almost always oblige, because I really AM, as he puts it, a “great little fucker!”

Except maybe a little at the beginning – maybe for the first few months at most — I have not “acted” to humiliate or be cruel or mean to my husband (frankly, we both agree it WAS helpful that I did so a bit at the beginning, as we were both attempting to become adjusted to our new sexual roles), as this has nothing to do with acting or “role-playing” – it is simply one of the things that works best in our relationship as, for example, a strict taboo against extra- marital infidelity is for us and for most other couples.

I have never allowed him, from the beginning, to TOUCH My Cock whatsoever. (You have to draw a line somewhere, and so this has always been the line.) While my husband does accept and support our special relationship, he still does crave the sensations he feels whenever My Cock is touched, so whichever chains or handcuffs or collar or other restraints or devices I insist on applying when I want My Cock to please me, he readily – there has never been a single exception – allows me to use. During these past 30 months, his initial resistance to my enforcing his chastity has all but disappeared – there are still rare occasions when he may “whine” at inconveniences like having to sit down to pee, or the special preparations we sometimes need to make to deal with security at airports or government buildings. Despite his acceptance, I simply, steadfastly insist that he can never, ever touch My perfect Cock with his hand – ever! My husband honors this.

The other line I’ve never compromised is that he can never, ever have access to the keys, padlocks and other locking devices I use to protect My Cock. (I constantly change the locks, where I keep the keys, etc. I have toyed with the idea of using a frenum or Prince Albert piercing to maintain 100% security but it just hasn’t felt necessary – it is always an option, as I think a piercing like that might just feel great on My Cock for stimulating me – time will tell…)

I guess you would say that we have both now long been extremely well- trained in the basics that have supported this new flowering in our sexual, and marital, relationship. I do tease my husband often, in mixed company, with little inside jokes or gestures (e.g. he totally “gets off” on my touching or tapping his chastity cages very discretely) or glances, which excite both of us, and are a special little intimacy that we share. I examine and clean and sometimes shave and always care for My Cock conscientiously. Importantly, my husband is still every bit the “man of the house,” in many ways he is the leader of our family, he has always been awesome in sincerely wanting to please and satisfy me, he says that is a very important part of what “being a man” and a great husband has always meant to him. I would never want to attack his ego or his pride – he doesn’t “deserve” anything of the sort. In fact I do thank him for treating me in this special loving way, I compliment and praise him for accepting and supporting this unconventional sexual relationship. And just as often my husband initiates expressing to me how glad he is that we are like this, how special it makes him feel to satisfy and please me like he does.

When I look at a lot of the messages and pictures at sites like these I see lots of people who are playing a role, having fun with risque ideas or sharing pictures and stories about their extreme – but not typical – experiences. I have no problem with that – to each his/her own. But I did want to explain our particular relationship, as I/we would be very interested to share stories, experiences, feelings etc. with other (married) couples with whom we may have a lot in common.

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