As part of a long essay on how she expects her husband to behave during mealtime involving women Barbara explains his food service role:
Whenever I have several lady guests at home I often DON’T let him drink nor eat with us, but simply be there to cater for all our needs, which includes laying the table, serving drinks, serving food, assisting with refills and second helpings etc. and of course clearing the table once we have finished. Basically more like a waiter or butler.
Equally it gives us girls a good chance to chat freely without any male listening or interfering …and you know me Becky how much I love to do that !
Often we are a giggling bunch chatting of course about what we like best….”men” ! Every time my dear hubby attends to us, may it be to clear stuff away or serve drinks or food or whatever, he gets many smiling looks and sometimes our giggling makes him look very nervous indeed, because he is of course not quite sure what I have been telling them about him ! Good for him ! Keeps him on his toes !
I stated all these rules in a general way to make sure he applied them to women in general. However I like him to follow ALL those rules as well whenever it’s just the TWO of us, i.e. all the same whether it’s just me or other women too !
So I do expect him to serve me first too, drinks or food or whatever, before he helps himself. I would consider it very insulting if he poured himself a glass of something without looking after me first.