Mistress Wildcat explains how a dominant woman may enjoy more than one type of relationship with a submissive male:
I could not possibly tell you what my perfect partner would be. I know he would have to be mostly sub and willing to live a D/s lifestyle although I want a man who is only submissive when with me and is quite self assured and dominant in other areas of his life; it is that contrast I like. I could go on with a whole long list of qualities I would like but at the end of the day someone is either right for you or not. I don’t think your boys would fit the bill though, Sue, as I like a man who submits to me willingly and it does not sound like your boys would do that! I can tell you though that locking a mans cock up in a chastity device will generally make him quite compliant. Perhaps you should think about trying that with your boys – or at least suggest it and see what reaction you get!
I know it causes some confusion with people (even my close BDSM friends) that cameron and I are not partners. I suppose the best way to describe it is to compare him to a close brother. You may love your brother and be willing to do anything for him; you may enjoy his company and want to share each others joys and upsets; you may value and cherish the relationship but at the end of the day he is your brother and not your partner. In the same way cameron is my slave and not my partner. The D/s aspect is more powerful because we don’t try to make the relationship into something it’s not and we don’t have to worry about the added complication of being partners. Any partner I fall for would have to be sub but the power exchange would not be same as it is with cameron. cameron is right when he says that he gives me something that a partner could not – in the same way that you get something from relationships with family and friends that your partner can not give you.