Akasha on her feelings about a submissive male’s desires:
I am a little torn on this one. There’s no doubt I want my partner to be willing and desire to submit to me. However, I do get incredibly turned on when the acts are a challenge for him. I enjoy it most when he wants to submit to me, but is nervous/scared/intimidated/unsure as he suffers through acts he finds humiliating or difficult.
I like it when he wants to submit to please me more than anything — but, he’s conflicted, slightly, as he does it. There are certain sub men that really get off on submitting to acts that they would otherwise never want to do, but they love doing it for a woman. That’s where I connect most.
Akasha,
Thank you for bringing up this topic. We as submissive men often lose sight of the fact that if our own preferences are the focus, we are not genuinely submissive at all. When an act is humiliating, it requires unconditional trust, which creates the emotional bond which is most gratifying. The willingness to conform to the preferences of the female as a demonstration of surrender is what it is all about. There is not enough discussion about the feelings of the dominant female, only the selfish desires of men. This is a valuable discussion, and it would be interesting to hear more about the perspective of the dominant female.