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Slave for Pay
Most professional submissves are female. Here’s an excerpt from an entry by Axe where he tells of the woman who offered to pay him to be her slave:
I would be required to be available to her at all times. If she called me in the middle of something I would need to stop everything to leave and be available to her.
I would not have any limits and I would be required to wear a chastity device at all times.
Lonely and Submissive
Strongnsubmissive sums it up all too well:
I’ve said this a thousand times - The only thing worse than being sexually different is being ALONE and sexually different. Inside i was screaming for companionship and an ear that could understand the language that i was speaking. With external relationships far behind me and trips to local munches a thing of the past, (they just caused too much friction with Bella) i yearned for someone who could understand me. Someone who could answer me when i’d ask: “Am i sexually flawed because i’m turned on by bondage, obedience and control?”
Submales & Subhubbies in Domestic Servitude
Off in the land of submales and subhubbies one gets the impression that a real woman is lazy woman. Not the impression John Q. Submale really wishes to present of his wife / mistress one would think.
Then again, are these stories of authoritarian - but loving (they say) - females who turn their husbands and boyfriends into domestic servants true?
The amount of time spent cleaning the bathroom suggests that the home is mostly bathrooms. Judging by the quantity of ironing it sounds as if the woman must’ve gone out of her way to avoid ready to wear fabrics.
Lonley Submission
Man Puppy asks an interesting question:
i’m clearly still thinking through a lot of issue here. For the time being i am content to let it boil down to one of those age old formulas – if a man kneels in the woods, and there is nobody around to see him, is it an act of submission?
My First Time
Very few people have any inkling of how uncommon dominant females are. That is why most of them become a ProDomme (professional dominatrix). There are easily a hundred or hundreds of masochistic heterosexual men for the sadistic heterosexual women they seek.
Malesubs almost never understand that Femdommes prefer clever, smart, capable men. They may want to control the man but the seeming paradox is that he must be a man worth controlling. Dull, wimp doormats aren’t in short supply. I don’t think this is really mirrored in the gay S&M community. Gay men having stepped outside the boundary merely buy loving other men are more open to uncommon ways of finding sexual gratification.
And I think men (gay or straight) often think more of the physical pain than the quality of attitude. Dominant women are more often drawn to sacrificial love, worship if you will than the merely whipping (not that they don’t necessarily enjoy the whole experience).
But I don’t want this to drift into some half-essay on the nature of power exchange and gender. It is just a spare account of an afternoon when a dominant woman gave me a chance to explore my heterosexual submissive side.
On Labor Day of 2000 I had must first experience as a submissive. I wish I’d written about it then rather then rather than waiting until now when I’m in a bit of a rush and distracted.
Ms. Zandra and I had chatted on Yahoo a bit and had talked on the phone the night before but this was our first meeting. It was meant just to be two friends getting together.
We chatted for awhile. I’d had hardly any sleep the night before (partly from talking with her and partly from my habitual poor sleeping). I was anything but a lively talker that day.
She asked me if I wanted to see her floggers. What could I say but sure. So she went out to her car and brought back her bag of tricks.
And offered me a rite of passage into the world of BDSM.
She put cuffs on me tied them together, blindfolded me and wrapped a collar around my neck.
She alternated rubbing me with soft things with light flogging. And she put clothespins on my nipples.
At her instruction I said “Thank you, M’am” whenever anything actually hurt. I had no problem with the strongest flogging she felt like delivering. It confirmed my suspicion that I’m a natural pain slut. The blows excited me and made me want more.
She worked my right nipple harder than the other. Twisting the clothespin gave me the strongest pain. That made me very excited.
At the end she had me get down on my hands and knees and led me to a chair where I knelt as she petted me and rubbed my head. This last was really very moving. Something very humble and peaceful. I really wanted to rub my cheek against her shoes but didn’t know what to do.
After awhile she released me and it was over.
A real elation stayed with me for a couple of days. This was all clearly very much to my taste and left me wanting more.
I had only one subsequent experience. It was with a guy. He didn’t really have the knack for domination. It was short and he slapped me some with a riding crop and mild flogger.
Sadly he was so boring that pain never became pleasure. But it was hardly pain, just tedious.
Thanks Ms. Zandra, it was very kind of you.
Small Penis Humiliation
Two links for men who crave to be mocked by women because they have a small cock:
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See more on the fetish of SPH at Small Penis Humiliation at Sex is Funny
- Stupid people have bigger penises
LFA / FLR - Keys to Success
Househusband fd has a series of what he calls key insights for submissive men in LFA, FLR relationships. Here are the basics of the first five (there are ten as of this writing).
KISS #1: “Sex for Her is Her right; sex for you is Her treat.”
Key Insights of a Successful Submissive (Part 1)
KISS #2: “She has Authority to make mistakes.”
Key Insights of a Successful Submissive (Part 2)
KISS #3: “Study Her and observe all you can about Her.”
Key Insights of a Successful Submissive (Part 3)
KISS #4: “Any fault lies not with my Wife but in myself.”
Key Insights of a Successful Submissive (Part 4)
KISS #5: Sex Life Reflects Real Life
Key Insights of a Successful Submissive (Part 5)
What Is In It For the Woman?
A man very touching rights of when submission has become undoubtable:
For the first time last night, M confided in one of the women on her soccer club about our new arrangement. She called me into our den and had me sit next to her as she told her friend Julie everything about us. I sat there in silence as her friend was absolutely shocked by what she was hearing. Her friend kept saying things like “this is a joke, right?” as she looked back and forth at each of us. M put her arm around my shoulder and pulled me close to her as my hands remained by my side. After several minutes M was able to convince her this is very real. What was most impressive was how enthusiastic she became in explaining how fulfilling this has become for her. I remember her saying something like “just imagine how it would feel to be able to explore your deepest fantasies with a husband who not only accepts, but completely embraces your every need and desire.” My head was reeling as our previously insulated role reversal was now introduced to someone in the outside “vanilla” world. While certainly feeling a measure of humiliation, I was also turned on to see my once shy wife tell her friend Julie about her dominance over our new sex life, about how my body is always clean shaven (“so soft and smooth”), about how I’ve learned to cook and clean and give the best messages. By the end of the night Julie was actually becoming envious of my wife. At one point she asked M if she could “borrow me”. They both got such a laugh out of that. She then commented about when she gets home her husband will come home later after drinking with his friends, and demand a blow job. M stood up and took Julie’s hand and told her “it doesn’t have to be that way”.
The Interview
I’m the current Spotlight Perve at Kink-a-Go-Go:
It seems like if you Google anything fetish you come across, “Down on my Knees,” a blog by a self-proclaimed, “Pansexual Polyfetishist : Alexandra’s Lover, Pet & Slave,” or Richard, if you look hard enough.
Let’s Play 20 Questions with the Blogger from Down on my Knees
Male Slaves of Gor
Very few people have heard of kajirus, a Gorean male slave. On a site devoted to the topic I found a page capturing the life of a kajirus:
Gorean slavery is not for everyone, but if you have a great desire for beauty, grace, honor, tradition, and symbolism then this type of slavery and training may be for you.
It is highly warned however that if you do start down this path of training that any impact from failure will be more intense than anything you’ve ever suffered before. If you fail and do not achieve your goal of becoming a Gorean slave, then you will not only suffer, but also She who you belong to.
The path of the kajirus is very hard and very serious. The decision to take it should also be taken with such seriousness.
The Gorean philosophy of ‘naturalism’ that is promoted makes it difficult for the Male Gorean Masters to recognize that a male would want to be a slave much less desire to be a kajirus. To them they recognize you as something other than real men and always worth less than a female slave (kajira).
In Gorean communities all eyes will always be on you, and while your sister slaves might be allowed tiny mistakes, you will not be. For a kajirus is always punished harshly, and they will watch for the slightest mistake to insist on such punishment.
While there are many warnings against becoming a kajirus there are also many rewards.
The depth of slavery you can obtain is complete slavery.