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Femdom Contract

A rather peculiar female dominant / male submissive contract: omits many things, include some odd things. Presented as an example of the many possible variations. Useful for a play scene at best.

  • You voluntarily bow and kiss my hand as my humble servant, respecting the feminine aspects of my divinity. Mutual confidentiality is expected in our Mistress / slave relationship.
  • You are to obey every command of mine. If any command is disobeyed, you understand that corporal punishment may or may not be inflicted at my discretion.
  • Your code word is MERCY. If for some reason you cannot obey a command, your pain threshold has been reached or I must be notified regarding a safety or anything you feel uncomfortable with, you must use the code word MERCY before you speak and this contract will be immediately modified in relation to the circumstances at that time.
  • If you are gagged, the code is to SNAP YOUR FINGERS.
  • You agree to use the code word MERCY and notify me immediately regarding any genuine safety concerns that I may or may not be aware.
  • Prior to this session and/or any future sessions, you are to list any relevant health matters and explain how they may affect our relationship.
  • You understand that you assume all risk for any injuries, unless I act in a grossly negligent manner.
  • If you want to touch yourself in any way whatsoever, including scratching your nose, you must beg and/or ask permission.
  • If you want to touch me, you must ask my permission.
  • I distinguish between domination and humiliation. Domination is where I order you around, telling you what to do. Humiliation is where I insult or demean you e.g. Bitch, slut whore, pathetic beast, animal etc. I will use humiliation at my discretion, but will consider your feelings on this issue.
  • If you are interested in any role plays, we can discuss your fantasy. If you want to write me a fantasy, that is fine. However, I never follow a fantasy exactly, because I refuse to be told what to do. Further, I never agree to any portions of any fantasies that contain illegal conduct. Following are examples of fantasy role plays: Tortured as a Witch; Tortured as an international Spy/Communist; Teacher/student; Strict Aunt; Mistress/maid; You are treated as an animal; Kidnaping and robbery fantasy.

Indicate your level of interest by ciricling appropriate letters:

  • NI=NO INTEREST
  • L=LIGHT
  • M=MEDIUM
  • H=HEAVY
  • WT=WILL TRY

Confess
your sins
and beg for
forgiveness
NI L M H WT

Ordered
to wear the
gates of hell
to prevent lust
NI L M H WT

Spanking
NI L M H WT

Whipping
NI L M H WT

Caning
NI L M H WT

Marks/welts
NI L M H WT

Bondage
NI L M H WT

Biting
NI L M H WT

Scratching
NI L M H WT

Wrapped
in plastic
NI L M H WT

Blindfolds
NI L M H WT

Hood
NI L M H WT

Mask
NI L M H WT

Gags
NI L M H WT

Humiliation
NI L M H WT

Foot Worship NI L M H WT

Body Worship

NI L M H WT

Ridden like
horse
NI L M H WT

Treated like
dog
NI L M H WT

Ordered to
wear cock ring
NI L M H WT

Dildo training

NI L M H WT

Fellatio on
strap on dildo
NI L M H WT

Ordered to wear
nipple
clamps
NI L M H WT

CBT with candle
wax
NI L M H WT

Nipple torture with candle
wax
NI L M H WT

Electroplay
NI L M H WT

Tied and tickled
NI L M H WT

Ordered to wear female lingerie
NI L M H WT

Forced to be transformed to a girl
NI L M H WT

Ordered to dance
NI L M H WT

Ordered to
sing
NI L M H WT

Ordered to
clean house
NI L M H WT

Forced to be a
piece of
furniture
NI L M H WT

Suspension
NI L M H WT

Slave Training / Punishment : Mighty Serious

Foot worship sounds like really awful punishment doesn’t it?

“Training” is a word that I’m starting to use when corporal punishment or
play doesn’t fit. More specificaly, ritualized regular c/p/p. It’s a bit
like foot kissing or using titles and so on. It seems to reenforce
submission but with sensation plus ceremony. Mmmmm.. good potential here i
think. I’l bet there’s plenty you out there that do this.

The top says punishment is no fun?

Real punishments for me, and I have only had to carry out two,
have been at special set aside times , in much *colder /formal*
space , and I have always made clear it is a formal punishment ,
detailed what it was for , and why I am punishing .
It is also made clear that I was not derriving any pleasure from it
and neither should he .

Training, using punishment to reinforce by ritual for me runs very
close to scening for pleasure, scening to develop play patterns, to
test limits .. to ADD that certain Edge …..( ie just another weapon
!).

How sober and dull:

I teach etiquette, manners and gracious living; contemporary and Victorian to
vanilla as well as lifestylist singles and couples. When I’m teaching a
lifestylist (dominant or submissive/slave, I use methods that incorporate bdsm,
as well as insuring clarification so that these skills can be used in both the
vanilla as well as the lifestyle world. When I am teaching one of “my own” I
am concerned that the lessons get across and if I feel the need to punish,
there is no play, there is no training, there is punishment, with the clear
understanding as to what it is for, the fact that I truly hate doing it, and
that it is meant to be for something that is Not to be repeated, thereby
insuring compliance. Dismissal is what results if that compliance is not
achieved.

Training Versus Punishment

Male Slave Training Protocols

On Sensual Sadist Alexandra writes about the psychology of ritualized behavior:

The last time I tried real protocol I found it was hard to impliment it all at once. I can forget how much of an ally simplicity can be, especially for a first time. Having tried to put it into practice I now realize that it can be tricky to remember a new set of rules, let alone actively enforce them. For some reason it seemed that pet boy would magically assimilate the rules as I wrote them down which is unrealistic without putting in the right amount of effective training first (no matter how eager he is to please) – and training is cumulative, building one principle on top of another slowly so they can be absorbed.

So now I am thinking I should start with things that I enjoy the most or are the most important to me when I’m feeling most dominant; and if things go well I can tweak and refine the rules in good time. So off the top of my head some things spring to mind:

D/s Protocol Revisited

Slave Positions

Rituals can accomplish much to aid the development of internal enslavement.

This list that jssubc presented to Mistress Jen is an excellent example or ritualized behavior.

GREET. This would be the most common of positions and usually non verbal. Toy would meet You as You enter and kneel before You with knees outstretched kissing Your feet and removing Your shoes if applicable. The variation on this is if Mistress and slave have just entered toys abode from outside toy would then (as soon as Mistress moves off) be expected to strip and put on the cuffs and offer himself to Mistress in the WAIT position.

SERVE. The only way to serve something to Mistress. Toy kneels before You with knees wide and offering the item with arms extended and the head and eyes lowered until You take it.

CRAWL. On hearing this command this slave drops to his knees and crawls to You, kissing Your feet then lowering this slaves head to the floor between Your feet wiating for Your next command.

PRESENT. There are two versions of this from the one command. If this slave is standing when it is spoken, toy is to immediately stand with legs apart and with hands clasped behind the head, Thus exposing him for Mistresses inspection/use. When slave is kneeling slave is to lean back on the heels and again clasp hands behind the head. In both instances toys back is to be straight, head erect and eyes downcast and remaining that way until released.

WAIT. This is a position where slaves kneels in front of Mistress with knees widely spread resting oh heels with back straight. Toys head is erect with eyes downcast but the hands rest upon the thighs palms up.

WORSHIP. This position is used when slave wishes to show Mistress the subservience She deserves. Toy kneels with the knees spread but lowers the head to the floor. Arms are widely spread and toys palms are on the floor.

FURNITURE. On hearing this command toy will kneel on all fours with head down. Ideal for when Mistress needs a seat for a phone call or a foot rest etc.

INSPECT. At this command toy will spread the legs slightly and reach down to clasp the ankles with head lowered. This will expose toy for Mistresses inspection/punishment.

EXPOSE. Upon hearing this toy will lay the floor with the back flat to it and bring the heels close to the butt pulling on the ankles with the hands which will the legs to be spread widely. This will make toy completely helpless and vulnerable to Mistress.

UP. this is used when toy is serving Mistress sexually. On hearing the command toy is to rise on knees facing Mistress and enter Her, moving as She directs for Her pleasure. Mistress may raise Her feet to Her slaves face at which point toy is to lick and worship Her feet, usually the soles.

ADORE. Slave is to sit at Mistresses feet and massage, lick and kiss every inch of Her feet up to Her ankles. Toy may use hands to massage and hold Mistresses feet.

Positions

A Contract for Dominants

There are plenty of D/s contracts for bottoms (submissive persons, slaves). Many silly, no small number downright wrongheaded.

Thisgirl speculated about a contract for tops (dominants, masters, mistresses). A few random extracts:

  • I want to help develop and nuture your submission and help you understand this side of yourself.
  • I will torture your body and push it to your limits but not overstep your boundaries.
  • I will keep the play interesting and not let it get boring or stale.
  • If Doms had contracts…

    In her commentary on the contract Lenora of Enchanted Palms wrote:

    So for the submissive there has to be some “risk” in signing the contract, some area or factor(s) that leave at least a hint of uncomfortableness. Without that element the contract feels like a cubic zirconium engagement ring: important perhaps as a symbol but of extremely limited value.

    I’m still rolling that around in my mind. At the very least there probably will be the discomfort of doubt: wondering if it can be lived up to.

    It’s Not Like Signing Up For A Gym Membership

    I have any number of mutually incompatible feelings about BDSM contracts. I will own that if nothing else they can be hot and sexy.

    If the D/s relationship needs to be bound, defined, clarified by prose – not that a clever person couldn’t do it in verse – formal agreements from both sides seems a reasonable approach.

    Symbol of Submission

    Some submissive persons and slaves wear items as physical symbols of the power exchange. Particularly when they are apart from their dominant partner, say, at work.

    For submissive guys the most common choice – with sad narrowness of vision – is an article of feminine attire: panties.

    Do you wear – or would you like to wear – something, visible or hidden – as a emblem of your place in your D/s relationship?

    • Necklace?
    • Bracelet?
    • Medallion?
    • Genital Restraint?
    • Lingerie?
    • Or … ?

    A Humane Contract

    The most famous M/s contract is a ghastly joke, over specifying far too many details of behavior. Probably more often reproduced than followed.

    Many are straightforward statements of power and responsibility. But they aren’t imaginative or individual to the couple. Just sort of embody a number of BDSM clichés.

    The contract that Dev is working on is a fine human document really fit to clarify and provide assurance for the two people in the relationship.

    Example:

    You may sometimes fear that you don’t know how to serve me. It is my wish that you be calm and relaxed and trust that if I am not pleased, or if I have a desire, I will express it. If you are not pleasing me I will correct you. If I want your service I will demand it. And please trust that I will often want and demand your service.

    I want you to strive. I want you to hold yourself to high standards. But I also want you to accept my love, kindness, and mercy. I want you to view yourself with love and forgiveness. I want you to understand that I see you as a beautiful person deserving of love.

    The Contract

    Public Protocols

    I’ve certainly posted enough about protocols and ritual behavior. But – because it doesn’t interest me I guess – never about regulated behavior in public spaces.

    On Fetish Lore, Devastating has shared a few levels of public protocols:

    My boy Joscelin and I go to a local bdsm club a couple of times a month and, while there, we usually have special protocols for him to observe. This is my first stab at having several levels of formality. I think reading and following this will turn him on and put him into a very submissive mindset, and I’m excited about it. I thought I’d share them with you guys in case they’re fun, hot, informative, or thought-provoking. Comments, critiques, angry rebuttals, etc. are welcome.

    Her list at Protocols

    Femdom Punishment System

    Mistress Evils has been writing about training her novitiate:

    Since re-training has commenced, my novitiate and I have begun to iron out all of the details regarding transgressions — what constitutes wrongdoing, what requires punishment and which of these also should be mollified by Penance. This is a work in progress, but so far, here’s the short list of transgressions and sentences thereof.

    There follows a list of highly structured punishments for dealing with things like disrespectful behavior and impure thoughts.

    Mistress’s New Punishment System

    Punishments & Rewards System

    People are often looking for systems of reward and punishment within D/s. Excertped below is a portion of an exceedingly complex arrangement:

    Here is how it works:
    The bottom is locked into a “foundation” garment such as a catsuit (or,
    perhaps, a chastity belt or a collar) and not allowed to remove it
    until a certain “quota” of “PointZ” have been earned. Each hour the
    foundation garment is worn, a certain number of “PointZ” are earned, as
    defined in a pre-defined “PointZ Play List” or “PPL”. Wearing
    additional garments, engaging in certain activities (or refraining from
    them) or being put into various situations according to the PPL may
    also be a source of additional PointZ. Once the quota is attained, the
    foundation garment may be removed. Quota sizes are set based on the
    degree of stringency desired. The sooner the bottom wants to be
    released from the foundation garment, the more fervently he needs to do
    certain activities to reach the quota! The key to the system is
    creating a well designed and comprehensive PointZ Play List.

    Here are some basic definitions.

    QUOTAS
    The Quota is a numerical goal to earn a specific number of “PointZ”
    before the bottom is entitled to a specified “reward”. Quotas are
    assigned by the Top and are based on an intuitive perception of the
    bottom’s’ general horniness, appetite for exploring limits and
    extremes, desire for a long or short term ordeal and many other complex
    human factors. There may also be more than one “sub-quota” in a given
    session. Tops may specify in great detail how the PointZ are to be
    earned or the subject may be given varying degrees of choice in the
    matter. In any case, the Top always controls the overall intensity and
    duration of the session by varying the size of the Quota. The
    assignment of Quotas requires a great deal of candid communication
    between Top and bottom to be done effectivley.

    PointZ Play List (or “PPL”)
    The key to an effecive PointZ program is a PPL that is pre-defined,
    comprehensive, precisely worded and well thought-out. PointZ may be
    based on time or events according to a PointZ Play List which is
    pre-defined prior to the beginning of a session. Wearing rubber
    garments or enduring various forms of bondage or sacrifice or engaging
    in some activity may earn a specified number of PointZ for each hour
    they occur. For example, wearing a pair of rubber gloves might earn 10
    PointZ per hour. Event-based PointZ result from the culmination of a
    specified event such as having or giving orgasms, and/or completing
    various tasks. “Negative” PointZ may also be earned as the result of
    failing to do something such as not abstaining from masterbation, etc.
    Tops may specify that the entire PPL or just certain items on it may
    eligble for earning PointZ for a specific session. Note that a PPL will
    grow in scope over time and becomes a handy “shopping list” of ideas
    for future play sessions, as well.

    REWARD
    A Reward is an event or permission that is awarded to the subject upon
    completion of a Quota. The most common form of Reward might be
    permission to remove a particular “foundation” rubber garment such as a
    catsuit upon earning, say, 2,500 PointZ. A “sub-Reward” while wearing
    the catsuit might be that your subject must also have some handcuffs
    unlocked once a “sub-quota” of, say, 500 PointZ has been earned. This
    provides flexibility in engaging the subject in various other “sub
    themes” (e.g. handcuffs) within a larger theme (e.g. the catsuit).

    The whole article: “PointZ” System of Erotic Play