Prose
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Physical & Mental Well Being
Health problems are a real hindrance to most all forms of BDSM. Who feels submissive when they have a headache? An upset stomach surely dampens masochism. Tiredness is anathema to dominance.
Divorce
The worst possible outcome for a man who tries to introduce his wife to erotic female dominance is that she’ll cease loving him:
And the worst thing is, I believe we could have been very happy together for the rest of our lives if only I hadn’t pushed this obsession – if only I had treated it as a fantasy and not attempted to create a reality of female domination. It doesn’t work.
Fantasies
The always delightful Angela St. Lawrence:
Because I do rather like being being behind the wheel in boy-girl games in my real life. It’s just in real life the game is one of sublime subtlety rather than the grab-you-by-the-balls immediacy so necessary to fantasy phone. Talk is cheap and it seems to me that a true Goddess wouldn’t need to brag about her prowess; she already knows it and smart men (the only men worth seducing) will know it too. Which means that I don’t advertise my life, I advertise my talents. TWO ENTIRELY DIFFERENT THINGS. But, if you get to know me well enough, you just might get to hear some inside dope.
The other thing is that I happen to be quite good at fantasy. I LIKE intricate role plays in which I am given a free hand so that I can work my magic, developing a story line around a caller’s particular kink. For example, I am very good at creating shemale fantasies. (I could actually create an entirely new persona as a TS, so that I would more frequently get those types of calls. And, honestly, I’ve thought about it–although I haven’t done so yet.)
Dominance, Submission and Health
It is just about impossible to feel either submissive or dominant when you are ill:
I have been down with a cold, which started in my sinuses, and proceeded to move down into my throat and chest. When I would get home from work, an employee is on vacation so I could not call in sick, all I wanted to do was just curl up on the couch with a blanket and watch TV. I found it a real effort to get up and do my normal house chores. Also, I began to feel some resentment of E’s requests, thinking, “Why don’t you just do it yourself, you have two legs…” Obviously, not the best mindset for a 24/7 sub.
It’s hard to be Submissive when you are Sick
I’ll Do Anything, Mistress!!!!
I remember one night when I found myself begging my own beloved “hurt me, kiss me.” (Oddly enough she was doing both already.)
Eileen shares a similar happy experience:
We were laying in bed, I was pinching his nipples, and he was getting more and more turned on. (I swear, this man’s libido is hotwired to his nipples.) And I pinched harder, and twisted a bit, and some blood sprang up as he became more and more turned on, when in the middle of the flurry of climax he gasped (the first words he’d said the whole time) “Do anything to me.”
And the weirdness vanished like the fricken Berlin wall tumbling down, and he was mine again.
Then she offers this insight and caution to all the sad, presumably submissive guys who make that claim:
I think subs who say “You can do anything to me” to doms they don’t know have just never had the experience of how that can go horribly wrong. Or maybe most of them have convinced themselves that whatever she decides to do, it’s survivable. Like sure, maybe it’ll hurt or maybe it’ll be expensive or you’ll need some stitches.
Eileen’s entry Say Anything
Not only is it unwise - stupid - but it repells many dominant women.
So don’t say it! Ok?
Woman Worship : My Beginning
I’ve written up my own discovery of F/m power exchange and S&M:
I found that my imagination led me from between her thighs to her feet, which I saw myself licking. Finally the flash: I wanted to be under the erotic control of a female.
Woman Worship : The Revelation
Making Trample Videos
A comment was left on a note about trample technique:
… The taping of a one hour trample video actually takes many hours. Sometimes several days. It is, after all a video production, and there are many considerations to producing a video. The trample victim is getting a lot of what he likes, but in most cases will be getting more punishment than he can take. Here’s where the “safe word” comes in. The safe word is a word that when spoken during taping, everything comes to a halt. The models get off the victim and the cameras stop taping. The safe word might be “cut” or “mercy” etc. During the taping of a trample video, the safe word might be used many times. The producers are trying to provide a video that is a little more than just a girl carefully stepping on a guy. However, if you interview the male AND female models involved in trample videos you will find that everything is carefully controled. …
Emotional Masochism
Bitchy Jones writes of humiliation and how many men crave “humiliating” acts that are as erotic as asking to be turned into a doorknob:
Listen up - here is the news in a fucking nutshell - the humiliation needs to sexualise you, to sexually objectify you. Not anti-sexify you, you stupid, stupid, made-of-ten-different-kinds-of-stupid bastards.
Fauxdomme?
Neologism alert:
Fauxdom, fauxdomme, fauxdomination, fauxdommery are words best defined by the person using them at the time. Fauxdom(me) is mostly a verbal strategy.
Fauxdomination
A new improved form of Femdom:
Take heart - now there’s hope for the busy would-be kinksters who simply don’t have time for those D/s ettiquette courses. A recently dicovered Tantric manuscript found in the Earl of Edgerton’s library (that is, under the cracked floorboard of the coat closet in the pantry next to the library) describes the long-forgotten art of becoming less “dommier” or “subbier” than the next person, while still managing to increase one’s inner pleasure. And since the Earl is already not having sex with more women than he can handle, he has graciously offered to have copies of the manuscript made and passed into the public domain.