Prose
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Outsourcing
Outsourcing is one of the most annoying aspects of contemporary capitalism. But who knew someone might think of applying it to professional domination. Mistress Milliscent writes:
I’m posting this because I was shocked and surprised by what I received in my email box today. A solicitation from a new business. They want to take all my email off my hands, telephone too. It seems that they want to answer all my emails, my phone calls. Communicate with my submissives so that I don’t have too.
Cost & Meaning of Professional Domination
Mistress Medusa is a young woman exploring a career as a professional dominatrix:
… let’s say your Mistress cuts you a deal and does $500 for two hours (this is about an average rate)… minus the $200 for dungeon rental, out of that remaining $300… there’s the money she spent on the elaborate outfit she’s wearing ($400 corset, $200 vinyl pants, $150 for boots), then there’s the toy bag full of instruments often costing hundereds of dollars each. Then the working hours answering emails, promoting, advertising (equivalent to a full admin position), $200 a month for private health insurance, etc … even if she does a two hour session 5 times a week… she’s still not rolling in the dough.
This is a job you have to love to be good at.
The sticker price attracts a lot of Women who haven’t done their research and they go as quickly as they come.
I don’t want to be one of those Dommes.
Whatever a latex fetish means to my client, the chance to fully exercise my sadism and make a living at it is something you have to do out of love for it.
Slavery Can Be Expensive
It is easy for submissive guys to forget that women are as unscrupulous and manipulative as men. Axe writes about a women who took advantage of him:
We went to her room and she had me kneel. We talked for a few minutes then she had me strip and she bound me to a spreader-bar hanging from the ceiling. She didn’t want to know anything about me really. I could almost tell that this wasn’t personal for her in any way. She toyed with me for a few minutes and after she was done she told me that she still wasn’t sure about me. I would have to come back at least four more times and bring $250 each time if I wanted to be considered.
As the door on the elevator to the dungeon closed behind me, I began to cry.
She knew I didn’t have that kind of money, yet she told me if I really wanted to be her slave I would find a way.
Femdom Hypnotic MP3s : Caveat Emptor
The sale of BDSM-themed hypnotic MP3s is a growing business. Here’s a warning:
There are at least two professional “Dommes” who give suggestions during these MP3s that the listener will have intense headache pain if they attempt to listen to another Domme’s hypno sessions. I think this kind of suggestion should be criminal. If I did have headaches after that I think I should be able to sue. There was no mention in the description of these files was I told that such a suggestion would be given.
Many of the “Dommes” try to addict the subject, telling the listener to crave more and more, to buy more and more, to pay tribute and offer gifts to the Hypnodomme. At least one tells the subject that no one else will be able to hypnotize him after listening to her then she tells the subject he is her slave and must keep buying her sessions. If someone accepted these suggestions I think they would be trapped since no one else could undo these suggestions. I am sure it would take a professional to fix the problems created by all of this.
Warning About Hypnosis and Submission
Fantasies
The always delightful Angela St. Lawrence:
Because I do rather like being being behind the wheel in boy-girl games in my real life. It’s just in real life the game is one of sublime subtlety rather than the grab-you-by-the-balls immediacy so necessary to fantasy phone. Talk is cheap and it seems to me that a true Goddess wouldn’t need to brag about her prowess; she already knows it and smart men (the only men worth seducing) will know it too. Which means that I don’t advertise my life, I advertise my talents. TWO ENTIRELY DIFFERENT THINGS. But, if you get to know me well enough, you just might get to hear some inside dope.
The other thing is that I happen to be quite good at fantasy. I LIKE intricate role plays in which I am given a free hand so that I can work my magic, developing a story line around a caller’s particular kink. For example, I am very good at creating shemale fantasies. (I could actually create an entirely new persona as a TS, so that I would more frequently get those types of calls. And, honestly, I’ve thought about it–although I haven’t done so yet.)
The Masturbatrix
Just how far can entrepreneurial zeal take a woman? Ally’s ever increasing array of sites, services and projects is breathtaking. She too modestly puts it:
My name is Ally, and I am a Phone Madame. I’ve been involved in the adult telephone entertainment (phone sex) industry for 12 years. Three years ago, I made the decision to take the leap from phone-hussy to Adult Telephone Entertainment Proprietress.
Take a look at Diary of a Phone Sex Madame.
ProDomme as Guide
Darren shares a sweet story of the professional dominatrix who helped him in his youth:
On girl in particular will always have a special place in my heart. Rose(not her real name) was a pro who knew fully well I wasn’t old enough to be there (they only took clients over 21), but took me under her wind anyway. We always talked for a long time before and after each session, about what I had enjoyed and what I hadn’t. She mentioned books she thought I would benefit from reading, skills she thought I should try and develop. I came in there itching to try every new sensation and she forced me to slow down, smell the roses and really understand what I was getting into. Looking back I realize, while she was doing a job, she was also very interested in helping guide me down my path. She told me once or twice that she saw real potential in me, and helped me along my way to becoming a considerate and thoughtful slave.
And when the day came when she knew I wasn’t getting as much out of pay for play as I once had, it was she who gently nudged me out the door, urged me to go out to events and find someone who I could truly serve fully and be happy with.
Phone Dominatrices : The Reality
As valuable as telephone sex work is it should never be forgotten that it takes more than a working telephone. Angela St. Lawrence writes:
… Maybe it’s because I’ve always been right (can you believe it?) in my assertion that phone sex is more of a sales enterprise than a sex enterprise. Bells and whistles are important, but the quality of the interaction is what seals the deal. And it is the the salesperson/PSO who is responsible for that quality.
So, in fact, if someone does jump on board expecting a free and easy ride in the saddle of a caller’s horniness, you can bet that she will soon be sliding down the proverbial wall.
Phone Sex Wars: Reality vs. Fiction
Domination is Hard Work
If you’ve seen the documentary Fetishes then you’ve seen Mistress Raven. Here’s an excerpt from an interview with her:
“Being dominant is a very hard job,” Raven explained. “You’re creating the scenario. You’re writing the entire script. You’re doing all the labor. You know, submissives, they have it easy. They’re not so stupid. They’re very smart. Who’s doing all the work? The mistress is supposedly in charge. But she’s doing the lighting, the music. She’s doing all the physical tying up and whatever the punishment is. She’s wearing the high heels and the corset, while he’s sitting there nice and cozy and comfy and just responding. So who’s really serving whom?”
(Funny how outsiders obsess with that last little bit.)
The whole interview: A Chat with Mistress Raven of Pandora’s Box
First Online D/s Session
Timid Boy writes of the pleasure he found in a long distance session with a professional mistress:
The session basically consisted of me naked and on my knees in front of a web cam with Mistress Trecia on the phone giving me orders in that sultry voice of hers that drives me completely crazy. I was unbelievably self-conscious and nervous, both for being naked in front of a stranger (and from two states away, no less) but also because I’m not very comfortable with my current weight. I had also not put myself into the hands of a Domme in any way in almost 10 years, so there were some trust issues brewing as well.
I was partially afraid that a virtual session would not pack the same punch as a real-life one and I’d therefore not be able to reach the blissful place I go in my head. While the feelings didn’t start out that intensely, I was completely overwhelmed about half-way through and I hit that sweet spot where nothing exists except Mistress and me. I’d forgotten how amazing that can feel and just got completely lost in that moment, kneeling, exposed, eyes closed, stroking my cock, Mistress whispering into my ear asking how it felt to be wholly and completely hers. Just…..wow.