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Is My Man Crazy?
Women are apt to alarmed when their guy asks for his penis to be locked up.
Your husband - or boyfriend - has confessed to you that he wants you to lock his penis up in a CB6000 or other male chastity device.
You are shocked. What is wrong with the man? Are you in love with a sick pervert?
Chastity as Intimacy
Many men claim to want to be permanently denied physical sexual release. They will probably find reading Strictly Female, the blog from which this is excerpted:
As far as denying him orgasms, since I don’t allow him to masturbate in our marriage, then his orgasms have to happen when we are together, as it should be in any relationship. Except, unfortunately for him, I don’t believe at all in allowing men to cum. I believe relationships are much better for a lot of reasons when the man is made to remain chaste and is not allowed to cum. I believe that chastity makes for a strong close relationship …
Orgasm Denial is Play
The silly stereotypes, implicit sexism and nutty male fantasy associated with erotic chastity play in the femdom subcultures alienated me when first encountered.
Tom Allen documents how many men don’t conform to the norms imagined by horny men:
… A few weeks ago the Yahoo group CB-3000 (which is probably the best run chastity group out of the two dozen or so Yahoo groups devoted to the subject) had a series of posts by men who were concerned with what they saw as the co-opting of chastity play by men who expressed desires to be “sissified“, turned into ladies maids. Further, some men didn’t appreciate the growing stereotype that male chastity is being equated to a desire to have one’s partner go off to have sex with other men.
This led to a particularly long thread in which a number of people “delurked” to express their views, and frankly, I was rather proud of the manner in which this did not devolve into a flame war. …
Neosteel
How one couple chose to move from a CB-3000 to a Neosteel male chastity belt:
My other half discounted the Locked in Steel, maybe its the photos on the web site, but looking at them closely the finish on the belts, penis tubes and cables just doesn’t look very good, they look like it was made as part of a hobby and not a business.
Then we went through the Tollyboy selection, I had found a site with pictues of a guy wearing one, and it put me off, the penis tube does not cover it all, it leaves the head exposed, and one guy described that going to the toilet, you end up either peeing all over your balls, or up your arse crack. So that put both of us off. It could be his belt was not measured right, it could be his dimensions, but it was enough to put us off.
Tell Your Girlfriends!
A wife offers advice on enhancing and maintaining male orgasm denial within a happy marriage:
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I found is to tell one or two of your girlfriends about your husband’s situation. Encourage them to flirt with him or even to grab him on the genitals when they are around (don’t worry, he can’t do anything about it
). I even let my best friend change Patrick’s diapers whenever she is at our house (he tried to refuse at first, but quickly agreed when I threatened to deny him for an extra 6 months!) This is guaranteed to embarrass hubby and to let him really understand that there is no chance of ever changing his situation. I find this does absolutely nothing for me but reinforce to him the fact that I am in control, as previously said this is most important, his failure to comply will have consequences he does not desire. …
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The most important step is always the first one, this is where he is made to understand that you control his sexual pleasure from this point forward, the initial enforcement of chastity should be at least three months of continuous wear without relief. That three month period does seem a bit harsh but it is paramount to your success because it allows his body and mind to adjust to the lack of masturbation and sexual pleasure as desired. Enforcing the first three month period will allow him to get in to the proper frame of mind and make him understand your desire and your commitment and your determination to his being chaste; it will also give you the chance to develop the strength to say “no”. He should be made aware of the time frame immediately after his being secured in his device, this allows for a clear understanding of the initial commitment of time. Also be sure to make him aware that asking (or begging) for relief will only earn him additional time in lockup - you really don’t EVER want to give in on this point because, trust me, he will annoy you forever if he thinks there is a chance of early relief! …
Chastity for a Long Happy and Sexy Marriage
Wives Who Aren’t Dominant
It is a common story to be found in the Blogger blogs by submissive men. They want their wife to lead their marriage, to exert loving female authority. They wish to be kept chaste, to have her regulate their orgasms.
But the wife has no interest in either male submissive or woman worship. She will enforce chastity only to be polite. And happily let him have an orgasm when he wants to.
The men are frustrated, often frantic. Take the example of Caged One:
Tonight I decided that if I was to sleep at all I had to relieve at least some of the pressure some way, so I ave managed to drain myself using the aneros, which is basically a prostate massaging tool.
I must admit it was incredibly stimulating I actually think I could cum with it in there just by clenching my muscles and not touching my cage at all. I was soooo close but I did not. So I am still orgasmless, and pleased as well as I would feel infinitely depressed if I did. I managed to get quite a lot of ejaculate from my body without any orgasm at all, so while I am waiting for my body to calm back down I am typing this.
So what gives with Sarah? I am frightened quite honestly that she won’t let me out until I cave in and ask, which will mean the cage serves no purpose at all.
CB-6000 : Male Chastity Technology
The CB6000 male chastity device is now available. Does that excite you? Do you want to wear one or buy one to put on your guy?
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This new ring design combines the best of both worlds: It is solid and flat with no hinge like the CB2000, yet easy to get on and off like the CB3000!
The new component is the inter-locking bridge. These two pieces slip together across the open-top ring to connect the cage. This allows for a ring that is easy to use and eliminates a hinge, which is a plus for individuals with sensitivity to metal. The result is cock ring portion that is a pleasure to live with Smile
Regarding the cage, the CB6000 takes it’s styling cue from the hugely popular CB3000. It is 1/4″ longer and has the same internal diameter. The CB6000 has a sloped design that is nearly undetectable under clothing. The cage portion has vented slots for hygeine and to allow for natural air drying.
As with the other CB models, two guide pins hold the ring and cage together. The top locking pin goes through the middle hole, and through the new bridge pieces, connecting the cage to the ring.
You will also love the new embossed CB6000™ zipper pouch for storage and travel.
* Please note: Due to heavy demand there may be temporary delays from our normal shipping estimates. Thank you in advance for your understanding.
It is very comfortable, but like the CB3000, also a bit more frustrating than the CB2000: The solid shaft of the cage eliminates nearly ALL contact. It is a level of tactile depravation that goes another step beyond erection prevention and masturbation control. He really cannot touch himself.
The CB6000 consists of 3 main parts:
Part ‘A’ is the new open-top cock ring that eliminates any pinching, chaffing or metal irratation while being worn. There is a center recessed hole that accepts the locking pin.
Parts ‘B’ are the two bridge pieces that slip between the ring and cage and hold parts ‘A’ and ‘C’ together when the pins are put through.
Part ‘C’ is the cage portion that snugly encases the penis. It attaches securely to the ‘A’ ring by means of the locking pin that goes through all three parts.
Accessories Inventory:
One Cage Portion
Five different sized open-top rings
Four locking pins
Four spacers
One brass padlock with ONE key
Five individually numbered plastic locks
An embossed CB-6000™ zipper pouch
Sizing:
The ‘A’ ring comes in five sizes: 1 1/2″, 1 5/8″, 1 3/4″, 1 7/8″ and 2.0″ inner diameters. All five ‘A’ rings are included with each order to assure proper fit.
The inside length of the ‘C’ cage Portion is 3 1/4″, just a touch longer than the CB3000. The inside diameter is the same at 1 3/8″. Please take cage size into consideration when ordering!
Fit:
Your love slave’s balls are trapped between the cockring and the cage. Finding the right sized cockring and spacer is important for comfort and security. It should be as tight as possible to avoid slipping out, while not cutting off circulation. Wearing a ring that is too tight can lead to swelling and discoloration of the scrotum. If this should happen simply move up to the next size ring.
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Why Do Some Men Crave Chastity?
Orgasm denial seems to excite men more than women - even in the context of female dominant relationships.
There are probably many, many reasons for this disparity of emotion. Here are a few possibilities:
- Conflict, guilt about their masculinity.
- Buried gender dysphoria.
- Guilt in being a lazy spouse.
- Recapture the erotic energy felt during the frustrations of adolescence.
- Feeling of virility from needing to be controlled.
- Desire to feel owned.
- Masochistic need for suffering.
- Submissive desire to please a woman who likes male orgasm denial.
Do any of them apply to you? To someone you know?
Can you suggest other emotional forces driving men to crave being kept chaste?
Orgasm Logger
Maymay offers this addon for kinky bloggers:
At the moment, the only really interesting thing that it does is provides the means to easily keep an orgasm counter on your blog as long as you can enter a single line of straight HTML in your blog service of choice. But, come on, how cool is that?
I’ve not been blogging because I’ve been coding
The Gift of Chastity
From the first part of a chastity story by Tom Allen:
In an apparent change of attitude about the subject, she told me that once I came I would have to put on “the cage” until she felt like letting me out – no argument. When I agreed - and I was so horny that I would have agreed to anything – she then told me to beg her to lock me up (”So you won’t complain, since it will be your own choice,” she explained). The thought of her keeping me locked up, but continuing to tease me for a few days was pretty hot - so hot, in fact, that as I was “begging,” I came harder that I’d thought possible. She gave me a few moments to bask in the afterglow, and demanded that I lock myself up again.