Prose
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Female Supremacy : Basis / Proof?
If you are one of those people who believes in female supremacy / superiority to you think that women are better and men inferior because of:
- Socialization - i.e., the way the different sex
- Biology - that there is something about female biochemistry makes women wiser then men?
es are raised?
How do you justify this belief? What are your sources? How would you try to prove it to someone who disagrees?
Do you think this difference is permanent? Or can men be made the equals of women?
Femdom & Body Types
We’re all nice people. We really only care about the person, the emotional makeup, the mindset. Bodies are as irrelevant in BDSM as they will be in Heaven. Right?
Or not so right.
Is there some specific physical attribute you feel that you need in a woman before you can feel submissive to her?
- Breast size or shape?
- Narrow waist?
- Special sort of buttocks or hips?
- Hair color, eye color?
- Something about her face?
Or if you are a dominant woman do you require that any man you take control of be:
- Tall?
- Muscular?
- Skinny?
- Clean-shaven?
- Circumcised?
Are there certain bodily qualities, attributes that are a must for you?
Perfect Domme or Submissive Man
Excerpt:
- Pure physical attractiveness
- Near your own age
- Strong Sadism, Masochism
- Very dominant, submissive
- Closely matching sense of D/s roles
Read the entire Potential Partner Checklist.
More than One Slave or Mistress?
How to you feel about multiple simultaneous partners in BDSM scenes?
As a slave, masochist or submissive guy do you thrill to the idea of multiple dominant women controlling you, working you over?
Or other submissive males?
- Or does it scare or revolt you?
- Is it a relationship breaker?
As a top, domme or sadist regardless of how you may feel in fantasy would you really order your bottom to participate in interaction with other dominants?
- Other submissive men?
- Do you require this?
BDSM Switches : Hoax, Dream, Imaginary Story
A sadist likes to hurt someone. A masochist likes to be hurt.
A dominant likes to take control. A submissive person likes to be controlled.
You can’t mix them. The two BDSM orientations are as immiscible as oil and water.
Kink folklore believed only by the unwise and ignorant.
The human mind and heart is capable of combining all sorts of seemingly irreconcilable opposites.
And a switch is a person who enjoys both sides of power exchange and sadomasochistic play.
Or do you think everyone must be only one or the other: top or bottom. Anyone claiming to be a switch is either misguided or a fake?
If you are a switch have you ever been derided by some self-appointed source of the truth? Been told that your sexuality doesn’t exist?
If You Could Change Your Kinkiness?
What if anything would you change about your sexuality - if you could - in a BDSM context?
More or less:
- Masochistic / Sadistic
- Submissive / Dominant
- Inhibited / Extroverted
- Desire / Patience
- Chaste / Horny
Not the best list I’ll admit. But there have probably been times when you’ve said to yourself I were I were more …
Fake Femdom Blogs?
Do you trust the fetish and kink weblogs that you read?
On forums and mailing lists even before there were weblogs there were always mean (and women if not men pretending to be women) who shared stories of how they and others engaged in D/s and S&M.
Stories that were a tissue of lies. Unable to actually explore their fetishes or live their erotic hungers they lived them out on the web. Though written by many people their tone and plot lines were sadly consistent. Sexual frustration can narrow the mind.
Many people now read BDSM and loving female authority weblogs as sources of advice and inspiration. And the lives they are hoping to emulate are often as real as that of Winnie the Pooh.
Do you think they are generally?
- Completely authentic
- Spiced up a bit
- Questionable
- Definitely dubious
- Completely fabricated
What do you think are the telltale signs of a bogus BDSM weblog?
BDSM Orgasms
Many people don’t think of having an orgasm a necessary part of successful BDSM play. The erotic psychodrama of a scene is sufficient unto itself. Yet there are those for whom orgasm signals the end of the scenario, is the goal of a session.
How about you?
- An orgasm must be part of a scene
- An orgasm should be part of a scene
- Maybe, maybe not: I take it as it goes
- Orgasms are rarely part of BDSM for me
- I never orgasm during BDSM play
If never: does that make you feel bad?
I wonder if there would be a significantly meaningful difference in feelings between tops and bottoms.
Penectomy, Castration?
Many men fantasize about having their testicles and/or penis chopped off. Being reduced to an impotent sexless creature.
For some this is just an extreme fantasy. They may use it as a way to achieve orgasm while masturbating.
Others had an upbringing that left them sick with guilt about their sexuality.
And another group are men who are transgendered but can’t admit that.
Have you had fantasies of yourself being castrated or forced to undergo a penectomy?
Do you really want to be a gelded human male?
If you do: why?
Fidelity
You’ve been in a monogamous relationship and suddenly your partner expresses a desire to explore his or her sexuality with other people. Perhaps together with you, maybe separately - or even both.
What would be your response:
- Agree to try
- Try to dissuade him/her
- Cry
- Leave
- Stay in the relationship even though you fear you’ll be miserable.
Or reverse the situation: your relationship has been open when the other asserts a desire for exclusivity: monogamy.
What would you do?