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Woman's Servant, Not Slave

“Slave” implies an inequality from the get go.

Here’s how my FLR works:

“So we have edged back toward a rather elegant, understated, world in which I am the servant/lover of the very elegant lady of the house. Hannah is beautiful, nicely demanding and able to give an order without anyone, except me, knowing she has. Part of my duties is to be her maid, taking care of her clothes, making her bed; part is being her servant in the sense of serving her wine or a bit of cheese, doing laundry, wielding the vacuum; part is being her ardent, but always obedient, lover. We work these roles out as we go along.

The one certainty being that I accept and welcome Hannah’s discipline and acknowledge that I have no right to discipline or even talk back to her.” two alphas

Not for everyone, works for us.

Been a good week, but my butt is sore.

After last weekend, my wife has kept up her demanding ways all week, but at the same time allowing/helping me come every night.




Before this week we would only play the game on some weekends and she would very rarely help me come otherwise. I masterbated a couple of times a week. I have not had to masterbate in 10 days a new record for me I think.




On Monday, she told me to start cooking as soon as I got home. She sat down and started watching TV. She was demanding all day. Asking me to massage her feet for an hour while she watched treasure hunters. At night she cuddled up beside me and gave me a hand job.




On Tuesday, I told her I thought we should have sex. She agreed.

– During the evening when I asked if she could pick something up she said – “well you want sex tonight don’t you”. She has become so blatent.

- Later she asked for a book and I could not find it, she found it and immediately said I needed a spank – I blew it off because she would say thing like this all the time.

- At night she was watching her video, when I came in she told me to go mop while she got in the mood.

– With the kitchen floor shiny, I came in and started massaging her pussy with my hand. Usually she stops the foreplay when she is ready. This night she clamped her legs around my hand and would not let it free until she was done.

– I asked her what about this holding my hard-on. She told me to get a towel and lay on my belly. She grabbed her whip and hit my butt hard. She then put on the TV and watched TV while she whipped me till I came.




On Wednesday she was bossy again. She told me if I was good I would get another spank since I like it so much. I told her my butt was sore and she called me a whimp. After a full evening of doing her will and her relaxing she did make me come by squeezing my nipples as I played with myself.




By Thursday it was obvious things had changed for the whole week as she sat on the couch and told me what she wanted for supper. When then evening was over and the house clean, I was on the bed on my belly being whipped again, with the TV on.




I am not sure what to think of her turning on the TV, watching David Letterman while she whips my butt. It kind of ruins the mood because of the distraction and knowing she is not paying attention to me. But the humilation of being just a distraction for her while she watches her show increases my horniness. And she is not in a rush to make me come when she is watching her show so she will sometimes take a break for a minute or so – increasing the intensity. In addition the submissive side of me is happy that she is happy watching her show.




So in the past week I had my butt whipped three times, as much as I had in the year before that. My wife had helped me come every night in some form or another, another record (my wife commented that she thought I would run out of come by now). I had cooked, cleaned and washed clothes every night. It was a good week, but my butt was starting to get sore from the whippings, but I am powerless to stop it.




I love my wife.

Feedback, asking what I did right.

After a day of my wife being the boss, I always ask her what she enjoys most about it. I will list off the things and she will tell me how much she enjoys it.

She enjoys being pampered

She enjoys the clean kitchen

She enjoys her naps.

She enjoys me satisfying her without having to satisfy me immediately

She enjoys me using her “Friends” on her.

She enjoys her car being cleaned.

She enjoys her snacks.




I have used this to fine tune what I work on when she is the boss. I thought she would enjoy not having to deal with our youngest kid, but she said she enjoyed bonding with him, so let her hold him sometime. I thought she would enjoy the clothes being cleaned, but she said they get so backed up again afterward that it did not really matter that much.




So every week after we are done, I find out what she enjoyed most. I can use this to do better the next time…




I love my wife.

Her RemoteControl

I love being submissive to my wife. During our lovemaking, the submissive side really comes out. I enjoy when I am eating her out or having sex that she controls the tempo by pinching and prodding me.




On our submissive weekends, while I eat her out, she will squeeze my butt when she wants it harder. When I am allowed inside of her, it is on her terms -she will squeeze my nipples or slap my butt if she wants it harder- I am not allowed to slack off.




She knows she can take her time coming when she is in charge. Normally I grow tired after 10 minutes or so. But when she is in charge she can get me to perform much longer.




I feel as though I am just her remote control dildo, with buttons on my nipples and butt to control her pleasure.




I love my wife.

Spilling over into the weekdays…

Although I am only he slave on some weekends, the things I have learned over the past couple of years on the occasional weekend I have put to use during the week to make her happier.




I have become good at giving her massages. Using body oil on her back to help her feel good. Or when we are watching TV at night, she will plop her feet on my lap and ask for a massage.




On the weekends when she is the boss, I am a full time chef. I have taken some of the recipes she likes and cook them on the weeknights as well. In addition, during the week I will try our new recipes, the ones she likes will make it into a future weekend menu.




Before we started the game, I rarely did laundry. Not that I was too macho, it was always her job and I had never learned the nuances of clothe cleaning (not that it is too difficult). On those weekends, I have to wash all the clothes, so I learned how. So now I pitch in on the weekends.




I do not mind helping keeping the house clean during the week now. It shows that I appreciate her playing the game with me on the weekend. And if the house is cleaner by Friday there is less work for me to do on the weekend so I can spend more time pleasing her.




I love my wife.

Maybe the bring back the massage was not such a wise idea

After a couple of years of only being submissive during the weekend, with a release at the end of the weekend, my wife has changed the rules a bit lately.




She has been more demanding, making me more submissive, all week – with release (with her permission and assistance spank/nipple-pinch/handjob/sex) almost every night. This has been going on for a couple of weeks and the tradeoff seems worth it, more work, more release.




In my last post, I mentioned I would bring back the massage on those few nights when I did not get release. A sort of appreciation for her understanding.




But now my wife expects it every night, instead of giving me release. She will roll over on her side and I will massage her back. When she is done – she is too tired to satisfy me.




It is almost as if she feels I got to massage her, that should be as gratifying for me as sex or other form of release. My mind somewhat agrees, I am submissive, I should be worried about her pleasure. But my loins really do not agree. I am getting very horney with all this demands during the day and massaging her at night and no release.




Maybe I should have just not given her those massages…




It is the price I pay for the pleasure of the submision i enjoy…




I love my wife.

Friendly public kidding

My wife does not really want to publicly humiliate me(yet). We keep the game between just the two of us most of the time.




But on the weekends when she is the boss, there is friendly kidding which goes on when others are around.




When our neighbors call, she will list off all the things that I have done and she has done. She will say “He has washed the clothes, cleaned the kitchen, vacumned the house, and washed my car. I have been relaxing and taking a nap all afternoon. ” after a little pause for them to reply she will say “Yes it is nice”.




When she comes back from shopping with her mother, she will ask “So did you keep busy and clean the house like you were supposed to?” then “Good boy”.

When her sister calls she will list off my chores and tell her sister where she had shopped.




She always does it within my earshot, not even trying to hide the fact that it might be humiliating to have other know of our arrangement. But the humiliation is kinda stimulating, and just makes me want to submit to her all the more.




If my friend had said his wife did all those things, while allowing him to sleep of golf. I would be jealous of my friend. I wonder if the women that talk to my wife are jealous of her. I wonder if she is somehow bragging to them about what a good relationship she has, that she gets to rest while the work gets done. I wonder if this makes her happy, I hope it does. On these weekends I love making my wife happy.




I love my wife.

Tell Him What You Want

Go get the lotion. I need you to rub my feet.

Run my bath for me. And while I’m in there get started on the laundry.

Get up, Sweetheart, and make me some coffee and an English muffin with butter.

You did a nice job cleaning the bathrooms; I am very pleased with you.

I want a full body massage for exactly one hour; keep an eye on the clock. When you are done I want you to go down on me until I tell you to stop. Afterwards, we’ll both go to sleep. You won’t be having an orgasm tonight.

I’m going out with the girls tonight. While I’m gone you can work on the laundry.

I want you writing down everything that you eat. I want to monitor your eating habits so that I can make some changes. Also, you’ll be starting an exercise program this week.

I think I need to put you on a budget. At the beginning of every week, I’ll give you an allowance. If an emergency comes up, please feel free to come to me and we can discuss giving you some extra money.

Out of the rut

I had enjoyed our game of me being submissive for a weekend immensely, but we had gotten into a little of a rut. I think we might have broken that rut this past weekend.




Usually – At the end of the first day I always satisfied my wife and I was left horney. The next night, no matter how I performed, we would have sex or my wife would wrap her breast around my cock and make me come. I was getting pretty sloppy with getting everything done because I knew I would be allowed a pleasurable release.

But this weekend that assumption was put to rest..




It started like most weekends, me making a bad comment. In this case, I said that since she was off on Friday she could clean the house since her sister was coming into town. That night I told my wife I wanted sex, but during foreplay she pushed my head to her cunt until she came, then told me I would have to wait.




The next day found a longer than usual honey-do list. I started working on them quickly to try to get through them. From experience, a completed honey-do list led to a pleasurable release.




During the day while I was cleaning upstairs, she asked me if I was slacking or working. I smarted off that I was slacking. She told me I would pay for that tonight. Then ordered me to come kneel and worship her – the first time she had ever done that.




As the day wore on, it was clear I would not finish my list and the house would not be clean, so my wife pitched in.




That night, I announced that my honey-do list was complete. After a shower, I settled into bed naked laying on my back, stroking my hard cock. She told me to roll over onto my belly, I thought that was interesting. Then I heard the drawer with her whip (she had not used it on me in 6 months since my birthday) open.




Whack on my butt – Me – “I love you” – After ever strike of the whip on my butt, I tell her that I love her, so she does not feel guilty about doing it.

Wife:”I do not think you should tell ME I have to clean the house!”

Whack… Me- “I Love you”

Wife “I did not appreciate your smart tounge this afternoon about slacking…”

Whack.. Whack.. Me- “I Love you”

Wife- “Do you like it that you do not know when it is coming?” She always alternates the tempo of her spanking. She seems to get a kick out of keeping me guessing.

Whack..Me- “I Love you”

Wife- “And I do not appreciate having to ” Whack “help you cleanup” Whack “what good is having a slave if I have to help”

Whack

Wife – “What else did you do wrong?”

She pauses the spanking until I give her reasons to continue. I am too horney to deny her.

Me – “I did not fold all the clothes, I left them in the dryer for you”

Whack… Whack.. Me- “I Love you”

Me – “I left dishes in the sink, I knew you would not notice till tommorrow”.

Whack… Whack.. Me- “I Love you”

Me – “May I please come”

Whack..

Wife – “Do you deserve it?”

Me – “Please”

Whack

Wife – “Will you do better next time?”

Me – “Yes”

Whack

Wife – “Then you may come”

Whack.

Me- “I Love you”Whack.. Whack

Me- “I Love you”Whack.. Whack

Me- “Thank you”




Although I enjoy being spanked every one in a while (twice a year would be fine for me), I felt I had let my wife down. That I had not been good enough for this weekend. My wife now has an option if I do not perform well enough, I will not get to feel her breast around my cock, I will get the whip. From her point of view, it is less work for her to whip me and not as demeening – So I have to be extra good..




Since there is concequences to my actions, I keep thinking of how I can better serve my wife. How I can not be so sloppy, how I can get everything done on my list.




As a side note, the next day my butt was a little sore and I corrected all the things that had gone wrong the day before. My wife sometimes complained that after I was allowed to come the next day I became sluggish – this did not happen with a sore butt.




I love my wife.

Talking

Guys usually do not like to talk. Most of the time, I am no exception. I will talk about sports, the kids, the weather – but relationships and feelings are not talked about.




On weekends when my wife is in charge, she enjoys talking. She will ask me what I think about our relationship in general. Where do I want to be in 5 years. All the questions that usually invoke a simple, shrug and I do not know.




I will talk to her while I massage her back as she plays computer games. Or we lay in bed talking.




She recently told me that it is one of the things she enjoys about my fantasy weekends. The game is not all about getting what I want, this is something she wants and I am glad to oblidge.




I love my wife.