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Cuckholdry & Humiliation
Bossed Hubby on cuckold fantasies:
What I have learned since is that the “thrill” of cuckolding is the humiliation; however, if it is totally your idea, and you even push her into it, then it is not really a true humiliation. When my wife decided to become intimate with another man, to attempt to conceal it from me, to compare him to me, and then to defiantly tell me that she planned to continue her relationship with him, I felt real anger.
Cuckold Humiliation
Madame Cane writes about humiliating a male, particularly in reference to cuckoldry:
Femdom lifestyles and fantasies can include so many different fetishes, but humiliation is always the most important element at the root of it all. There are stereotypes in the vanilla world of what it means to sexually dominate & humiliate a man. They always see the dungeon-bitch with the whip, the dog collar on the slave, and yes, there are many of those. But dominance can be softer, and quieter too, yet pack the same sting to his ego. The same effect on his willingness to serve his mistress.
Loving Cuckold Husband
A submissive husband seeks to help his Mistress Wife cuckold him:
I am hoping that we can find a nice guy who Mistress enjoys spending time with, with a big hard cock that they both like to use a lot, and that Mistress will get full satisfying sex from him so that I get to cum less and less and become more and more of a useful slave rather than object of Her sexual desire, apart from eating Her pussy of course.
Loving Female Cuckoldry?
The all too common association of loving female authority and the cuckoled husband can be deadly:
- Since the relationship entails bringing more sexual energy into the relationship my wife complained that I was too interested in sex, that my whole life had become about sex, and that it’s all I could think about. Yes it was true.
- It I went a few days being teased without ejaculation I wasn’t able to maintain a proper erection in order to give her satisfactory pleasure. I’m a healthy 29 year old man who normally has no problem, but once I became extremely submissive I just couldn’t get it up and if I did, I’d have a premature ejaculation.
- I noticed that many (although certainly not all) websites discussing female led marriage discuss cuckoldry. Once I discovered my own inability to please my wife and her disappointment I started to understand why. I know for certain that is a line I don’t want to cross and I’m afraid that if we continued with a female led marriage, and my inability to maintain erection, I could easily end up getting excited by the idea and wanting to introduce her to it.
We decided to go back to our (bad)old 50/50
How did we get started in LFA?
A Submale’s Humiliation
NYCuckold strives to empower his wife, make himself more lowly for her pleasure:
What I am trying to do is for my wife to humiliate me more. Why? Well, I believe that she needs to loose a little respect for me and realize I am not at her same level. This can be done subtlety when involved with people who do not share the same feelings. Ordering me around in front of people so they get the feeling that I at her service works. They shake heir head and smirk at me as I do as I am told. My wife then feels empowered.
When alone, I try to be subservient. However, I sometimes falter which discourages my wife and once again it’s like climbing a hill to get back to where we were. I need to really work on this. I am gradually turning over the financial control to my wife. …
A Man Worth Cuckolding
I’m surprised I didn’t discover Maria’s remarkably lucid diary earlier. Here she expresses a feeling common among dominant men that many wannabe submissive men don’t understand:
I couldn’t live with a man who was submissive in every aspect of his character. I couldn’t abide a husband who wouldn’t stand up for himself, who would meekly say nothing if someone pushed ahead of him in a queue. The great attraction of Martin now is the combination of the sexual submissiveness he displays with me, and the otherwise confident, assertive character he displays to the rest of the world. Alone with his Mistress he really is a small-pricked, heel-sucking, arse-licking, faggot-minded, sissy failure, and fully deserves every stroke of the whip I give him. The rest of the time, however, he’s a strong-willed, impressive, dynamic individual with a very engaging personality. Although many men think that Martin is very lucky to be married to me, I know for a fact that as many women feel that I’m the lucky one. You don’t get to build the business my husband has (and at such a young age) by lacking drive, intelligence and skill, and you certainly don’t last long if you let others walk all over you.
Cuckoldry : The Consequences
Part of a meditation by Oldbear on voluntary cuckolding in Femdom relationships. I strongly suggest anyone wishing to be cuckolded read the entire essay:
Perhaps the answer lies in the powerful biochemical conditions that accompany good sex. Perhaps a common theme when cuckolding goes wrong in a good marriage is the transfer of positive emotions from spouse to the new lover? Perhaps some of it is the result of unrestrained slavishness meeting up with hedonism taken unto selfishness. Can a great thing like submission and service be taken far enough to cause a lady to disregard or even discard a person who was once the most special person in her life?
Cuckolding Part II-why it might ruin a good thing
Abject Shame and Humiliation
Mistress Laura’s Boy writes potently about the erotic power images of being cuckolded have in his mind:
As sick and twisted as that may seem, the danger, the insecurity, the abject shame and humiliation are at the core of the “enjoyment” of such an experience.
If I was being cuckolded, I know I would be miserable but I would also be turned on by such a flagrant display of power by my Mistress Wife.
My Wife has, from time to time, made me fall on my knees in pure adoration and lust simply by entertaining the idea that she may, some year in the future, choose to divorce me and keep my as simply her slave. That scenario pushes the same buttons: I would be insecure, no longer legally joined with her as an equal in the eyes of the law, and totally dependent on her. I would not be her submissive husband, just her slaveboy, stripped of all rights.
Loving Female Authority
Katherine West the writer of the Loving Female Authority blog has been silent for months. I’ve been baffled that so many Femdom bloggers link to her (no criticism intended). Was it just the title of the blog I wondered.
Her last original entry was posted back on June 15th. She was writing about cuckolding her husband:
… He said he felt as though we were playing our parts, but there was no true intimacy amongst any of us. I agree. I think the nature of casual aquaintences congealing into sexual activity is less than just the warm kisses of my husband on my ankles when he rubs my feet. I think we reached for something bold, but instead found an experience that might have been on par with an adult film. At the time it was quite absorbing, but afterwards, there was no intensity of his submission to enjoy. Furthermore, my husband has been quite himself since the evening ended. This was very unlike our past experiences in which my nurturing was his opiate.
Perhaps Loving Female Authority will return to life with a happy report. (I discount the speculation that Ms. West is really a man spinning fantasies but have no way to know.)
But if like me you read many, many blogs focusing on female led relationships and wife-led marriages - variously actual, fantasies, and wished for goals - you’ll noticed that LFA is not a panacea.
Sometime it blows up in the couple’s face. Then blog then grows silent, often is removed. Perhaps the FLR has been abandoned as unworkable. Perhaps the couple went on to divorce court.
Be careful: make sure what you think you want is within your power to handle. Neither the dominant woman nor the submissive man should be pushed past their safe emotional limits. And these will be individual to each couple. Don’t preach some imaginary ideal that is nothing more than an expression of your masturbatory fantasies.
Feelings When Cuckolded
Slave2Catwoman describes the feelings being cuckolded arouse in him:
During these experiences, I go through every emotion possible. Happiness, sadness, anger, jealousy, insecurity, fear, sexual excitement. It is incredibly arousing to be so openly used and degraded. The fact that she makes dates while I am in the room with her is so humbling. She has no fear that I, or he will utter even the slightest complaint. It is the height of disrespect to me as a man and just as a person. But I cannot deny that seeing Ms. Catwoman exercise her power in this way turns me on like nothing else. She can’t be ruthless enough, as far as I’m concerned.