Obsequenda writes about the doubts some women have about being dominant:
I wonder if this is because some (perhaps those same) women are introduced to FemDom by their submissive partners and therefor they are trying to live up to some undefined expectations. Trying to find their own style by reading and mimicking what other FemDom couples are doing – only to realize that it may or may not suit their relationship. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done a whole lot of reading and researching into FemDom and it’s important, you just have to put on your reading glasses and filter out what does and doesn’t suit you.
One of the things being dominant does for me is to allow me to play by MY rules instead of having to follow other peoples rules. Being able to take what I want when I want it and not have to consider what he or someone else might think or want. I want to do what pleases me, whatever it is – orgasm denial, cbt, using a strap on on him, make him suck my toes or even ride his/my cock, just to name a few. As long as it doesn’t cross any hard lines between me and him.