I, uh, enjoy – there is no proper word I can think of – emotional masochism. It is something I engage in carefully with a loving partner.
Gloria Brame, a wise woman, points out the danger of emotional masochism:
Meanwhile, not to insult people who have fantasies of being treated like shit — but maybe those fantasies need to be viewed as an expression of other, deeper emotional problems. Not all masochism is equal; not all masochism is good. Emotional masochism — which most normal human beings share to varying degrees — can destroy the person who is not in control of it.
Are you in control of your emotional masochism? Deep deep down, do you think you’re a piece of shit?
Worthless piece of shit submissives
From my point of view, to be dominated by a woman who accepts and appreciates my desire to be submissive to her is the most emotionally fulfilling experience on Earth. To acknowledge her as my superior, to be obeyed unconditionally, is the deepest act of trust and devotion, and it benefits me more than her. That being said, her willingness to accept me as her submissive is the greatest act of kindness, generosity, and understanding. It is a beautiful thing, and I don’t think being “treated like shit” enters into it.