I try to not quote any one source too often or frequently but Eileen makes that difficult.
But the theme of incivility is one I find hard to resist. And the important reminder that because someone likes to be beaten or enjoys groveling doesn’t mean that they don’t have self-respect, aren’t entitled to your best behavior and aren’t likely to be tougher than you.
Eileen addresses the topic of strangers coming up and asking the top if they can manhandle the bottom.
People have done this to me and May, coming up to ask me if they can play with him. I like to step back and let him deal with it, because I am a sadist and I get a little happy shot of sadistic glee over watching my assertive, independent and totally-lacking-in-compassion-for-strangers slave boy rip these stupid people to shreds. Oh god, it’s wonderful. I could sell tickets.