Lenora writes of how a D/s relationship will perish if certain expectations are lived up to on each side of the power exchange:
However there are going to be expectations. It’s unavoidable. And this letting go/grabbing on area is one where the submissive is entitled to expect that the Dom/me will, well, do the Dom/me thing and take what’s being offered up. In fact, if the Dom/me sees/feels what’s being let go of and can’t/won’t grab it, then that’s a fairly strong indicator that the two people are mismatched on a basic level in D/s terms.