From a remarkably lucid and sane post about BDSM and sexuality by strongnsubmissive:
… Finding the reality that sates my sexuality vs the fantasy that excites it can be a daunting task. Surprisingly, it’s something that i think i’m constantly learning about, and i’d expect my partner will probably find the same thing. I’ve never put much stock into the popular idea that women are naturally the more dominant sex on this planet. I’ve always chuckled at the ideals of Female Supremacists. I think the idea that supremacy, soley based on gender, race or religion, is a little small-minded. For many though, it plays into their fantasies in a positive manner so i guess that’s why it’s so popular. The REALITY of bdsm for me, is being able to express myself in a way that sates my sexuality. What that includes isn’t entirely written in stone, however i can say that being pleasing to a woman, who needs my sexual wiring as much as i need Hers is a basic first step. It’s here that i start to feel complete as a sexual being. If this basic compatibility isn’t there then the relationship for me seems pointless. I guess i’m more attracted to the dynamic of a D/s relationship, rather than just the play alone. …