Prose
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A Novel Use for Vibrating Nipple Clamps
I have a male masochist’s deep and abiding love for having my penis and testicles weighted, clamped, kicked, etc. So naturally I enjoyed Teppycat’s story of exploring it:
Then I remembered I have a set of vibrating nipple clamps in my toybag. I didn’t attach them to T.’s nipples. I just clamped them to different parts of the cord around his cock and balls. They’re bulky (for nipple clamps) and heavy-ish (ditto), so at first all I did was lift them up and let them fall, repeatedly.
Then I turned them on.
I’m pretty sure he didn’t realize that they were vibrating nipple clamps when I attached them to the cord. (I doubt he was thinking very clearly — or in any linear fashion — at that point.) So suffice it to say that when I turned them on, it was one HELL of a surprise.
Long Distance Repentence
Some men enjoy long distance domination. The Erotic and Sensual Humiliation Newsletter is made for those guys. This extract is from inflicting punishment on yourself for past misbehavior:
Of course you will be naked for this entire assignment. Take the marker or the lipstick and write the words: “I am sorry Miz Ava” across your belly. And while you are writing these words, I want you to be thinking about what it was you did wrong and be sincerely apologetic in your mind and heart. Then repeat the words: “I must repent” ten times after you’ve marked your stomach.
For the next five minutes I would like you to be on your knees—but do not sit on your feet or ankles when you kneel. In other words, you should be kneeling upright. Hands are behind your head now, and focus on your wrongdoing. Why are you so unruly? What do you gain from misbehaving? How could you learn to be a better person?
Physical & Mental Well Being
Health problems are a real hindrance to most all forms of BDSM. Who feels submissive when they have a headache? An upset stomach surely dampens masochism. Tiredness is anathema to dominance.
Promote Your Site
I get requests to list blogs and sites that don’t match this site’s theme. I’m a great believer in narrowcasting: hewing closely to a topic to better enable people to find what may help them.
I do maintain a more generalized sexuality directory and am happy to list most any noncommercial blog or site and many commercial websites as well. The sites don’t have to focus on fetish or kink (that of course is fine), any sort of atypical sexuality, sexual help, art or prose is welcome.
And listings are free. If you have or know of a site that should be listed please submit it.
Slavery Can Be Expensive
It is easy for submissive guys to forget that women are as unscrupulous and manipulative as men. Axe writes about a women who took advantage of him:
We went to her room and she had me kneel. We talked for a few minutes then she had me strip and she bound me to a spreader-bar hanging from the ceiling. She didn’t want to know anything about me really. I could almost tell that this wasn’t personal for her in any way. She toyed with me for a few minutes and after she was done she told me that she still wasn’t sure about me. I would have to come back at least four more times and bring $250 each time if I wanted to be considered.
As the door on the elevator to the dungeon closed behind me, I began to cry.
She knew I didn’t have that kind of money, yet she told me if I really wanted to be her slave I would find a way.
Power Exchange Orientation
I’ve been using the phrase “power exchange orientation” for some time. Mostly because I think it enables discussion of D/s without carrying along much of the old baggage that often seems to bring along old lore without adding much clarity.
Maymay has written an essay:
Being submissive is who I am sexually. I can not imagine being any other way. Furthermore, I have always been submissive sexually. The very first sexualized memory I have is one of a fantasy that involves orgasm control, and ever since then and probably from well before, control and power have been inexorably linked to my expressions of sexual fulfillment. In other words, for me sexual arousal is tied to feeling submissive; I rarely, if ever, feel turned on unless I also feel submissive (in one of myriad ways).
Because Submissive is an Orientation
Feminization is a Bitch
Before I ever encountered the female domination subculture I’d learned from heterosexual crossdressers that there’s an all too alive buried assumption that wearing female attire and feminine behavior has to do with ’service,’ submissiveness, being pleasing and having inferior status. That men who professed to adore women wore panties and the like as a mark of mark of inferior status, tokens of humiliation simply stunned me. The modern age was not clearly had not worked out the way my younger self expected.
And given that in my own life feminine males were treasures and sources of elation it just seemed plain disgusting.
While I’ve never really come to like this form of D/s I do realize it probably does allow men who otherwise couldn’t face gender identity and sexual orientations an outlet of sorts.
Dev shares her feelings in an entry:
I’m still not into forced feminization. And I know a lot of women’s clothing is actually soft and comfortable - delicate in a good way. (Jos wore my underwear to bed one time and I was amazed how soft and nice it felt.) And I prefer men who like to wear women’s clothes because they enjoy feeling soft, sensual, and sexy, rather than because they think being like a woman is humiliating.
Psychological Sadism
There are two interesting things about this post of Aradia’s.
Many dominnat women use the level of the male’s erection to judge how excited he is. It is never that simple.
I am also a psychological Sadist and have finally made whore’s penis afraid to get an erection. That’s right, his penis is afraid of Me, and the pain that it will receive during a session, so it stays flaccid. Personally I find this amusing as hell.
Her humilation of him does not diminish her respect:
When it boils down to the bare bones, I have not lost My respect for whore. If anything, him being able to take the humiliation I dish out and be grateful for it, makes Me respect him more. Not many men would be able to handle this kind of humiliation.